Why can't we have it all?
I just got off the phone with my lawyer and I've got to tell you, I'm a bit discouraged.
I know I must plan for the worst case senario, but that is so tricky.
Long term, I may be able to work something out with my parents help. But in the short term (6 months) I need to rely on Michael to watch the girls or I have to get a new job.
I am moving out next week because Michael won't. I am actually looking forward to having my own place and for our current situation to change.
I am gone a lot with my job anyway, so it's mostly just a place to sleep that isn't under the same roof as Michael. Besides, I would like the girls to be able to finish out the school year here.
Now the problem is...getting full custody if I move out and leave the girls with him. The judge will ask why I did that if he is such a incompitent parent.
Well, my hope is that he will stop drinking and we can share custody. The only reason I want full is to protect the girls.
But I don't want to work at Safeway. That's what my lawyer suggested.
I don't want to be in this spot...choosing between my kids and my job.
The tow truck is here to get the smashed up tundra.
It's gone. Mind if I take a second to scream?
TAKE THAT PIECE OF SHIT OUT OF HERE!!!! I DON'T EVER WANT TO SEE IT AGAIN!!! ::(
posted by Kathy at 11:20 AM
2 Comments:
let it all out, K!
i can understand your frustration with lawyers. sometimes we don't give the good news.
keep a detailed journal. dates, times, events, etc. do not blog where all "eyes" can see.
safeway? no. not a good idea. too much risk of confrontation. stay with the FA job. that's a buffer.
you are in that between a rock and a hard place. but understand you have a good job that requires you to be away. think of it as a plus. the judge "may" look at that closely.
i will say this. he is on madd.org's radar.
feel free to delete this post.
1:25 PM
Ok, the first thing I thing of in this type of situation (and you know I've been there before) is to think of options. I think we all just need to be creative to come up with a workable solution. Can you work at the Sacramento airport for the airline in any other temporary capacity like gate attendant, at the check-in desk, etc.?....Just for a few months until things settle down....If not, can you transfer to Medford? I know you want Katie to finish out the year where she is, but life is all about learning to deal with change, heartbreak and a new way of looking at things. I'm not trying to be cold-hearted about this...but sometimes ripping off the band-aid super quickly is way better than pulling it off slowly....
From experience, custody is not taken lightly----it is looked at very closely and (in my case) the judge wanted to know exactly why it wasn't going to be 50-50. I would weigh your lawyer's words carefully or at the very least get a second opinion.
Other options---if you do have to take a leave of absence from the airline, what about doing something interesting like working in a bookstore or museum or art gallery? You LOVE those things! This way you could still work with people in a customer service field and in a field you really have passion for. FORGET SAFEWAY!!! Other ideas---a newspaper, a store that sells running gear....
Think big. Think outside the box. Please don't misunderstand me---I'm not trying to tell you what to do. It is your life and only you can decide what works and what doesn't. I'm just a concerned sister trying to help "make it better".
Love you.....C
5:00 PM
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